Needful Things

Tips, Toys and Telling Tales

A little glimpse into my box of tricks

This mini post was inspired by a conversation I had with the sensational Ella Light, and a moment of madness where I decided I needed to audit my spicy treasure chest. It is by no means an exhaustive list, and my tastes change throughout the seasons - but these top ten are timeless.

I would love to hear your suggestions in the comments or if you're shy DM me

So, without further ado…

Number Ten : The Attire

This can be plain white knickers. His crisp clean suit. Or a full set of Bordelle lingerie. But the clothing sets the stage as any good costume designer will tell you. For me at the moment it's all about latex. It feels wonderful. Looks hot as fuck. Wipe clean.

Honour Clothing do a wonderful selection

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Number Nine : Added Bonuses

Suction cup dildo

These are great for solo play, especially for tricky new angles. But also great fun when experimenting with various levels of partner penetration.

I love this one from Natural Love Company

https://plasticfreedom.co.uk/products/the-natural-love-company-dill-ribbed-dildo-with-suction-cup

Number Eight : Pretty Jewelry

Clamps

These go in and out of favour depending on pain thresholds. But aestheticaly, they cannot be beaten, and they are a great way of playing with intense sensation. Pegs work well too if you don't have clamps to hand, but can snap at crucial moments which is frustrating. Clover clamps are a joy but not for novices, the tighten the harder you pull. Go slowly.

Number Seven : Impact Tools

A leather paddle is the ideal in my humble opinion - but really you can use so many house hold items. Wooden spoons, belts - you don't need to spend a fortune on leather whips, although if aesthetics are your thing, Etsy has your back. I covet a whip that has a glass handle. For obvious reasons. If you are a little more experienced and love being marked, misery sticks will make you sob and leave you with delightful red welts

Number Six: Silencers

Spider-Gag

Messy. Restrictive. Great for access, and silencing

Would start with a ball fag first if this kind of restraint play is new to you (or just use your underwear...).

I cannot find an aesthetically pleasing photograph featuring the spider gag that I am happy with, which means I will need to shoot it soon. Le sigh. Why does so much of the bondage scene insist on being shot with flash and tacky props?

Number Five : Magic Wands

Glass Dildos

So pretty! Pink or clear or whatever colour you like. Obsidian waves or baubled. They are works of art and also designed for deep and life altering orgasms. I have been on a bit of a vibration detox to rewire some of my pleasure pathways and these are the perfect partners. Deep pressure, slow build up, and the weight and heft are perfect for activating G spots and awakening more pleasure

Paired with a Lelo Sonar (coming up!) be prepared to have your brain melted.

Onna Lifestyle do beautiful wands

Glass Sex Toys - Curved G-Spot Dildos, Glass Wands | Onna LifeStyle https://share.google/19habv4RjDIRgDtiE

Number Four : Double Trouble

Glass Anal plugs

I love glass. It's versatile, resilient and easy to clean. For the more adventurous you can pop them in the freezer for temperature play. The weight and size is satisfying and the base is wide and easy to handle.

Tansy | Anal Glass Dildo | The Natural Love CompanyThe Natural Love Company https://share.google/1ZocrcXtyohxE3rlu

Number Three : Housekeeping

The Splash Blanket

Ok not strictly a toy as my partner has just pointed out, but a necessity of an accessory.

For all and any water works, or messy play, or if it's that time in your cycle. These bad boy blankets absorb everything, are beautifully cosy and leave your linens bone dry. Not more wet patches. Straight in the washing machine (don't use fabric softener) and you're done. Essential. I have three and a travel sized one for vacations

https://splashblanket.co.uk/

Number Two : The Essential

Lelo Sonar Cruise

Lelo make some of the best toys I have ever had the pleasure of using. Great quality long lasting and they look gorgeous.

This little hand held pocket rocket is not for the faint hearted. It's so powerful I have to make sure there's a splash blanket in place before I even consider using it. Spectacularly quick, it's useful for the time poor or if you're after multiple Os to finish you off. It's very intense so if you're not used to Sonar toys that are VERY specific I'd warm up with something less... Insane. Very effective when the user is face down, ass up and being brutally punished for their many many transgressions. Oh and it's waterproof.

https://www.lelo.com/sona-2-cruise

Number one : The Foundation

Words. Yes darling. Use them. Frequently and with abandon. Unless you're gagged of course... there is nothing more filthy than a week long sexting session that finally exits the chat.

And if you're really stuck, use mine

Play nicely,

KV xxx